Why Bipolar Disorder Fights Dirty

The individual didn’t ask for the illness, nor did they do anything to deserve being cursed with such a destructive attribute of their being. Regardless of how beautiful and warm-hearted its host is, however, bipolar disorder hates them and everybody associated with them and will do anything within its power to control, manipulate and consume the person it has leeched onto. As a supporter, the illness hates you even more and would like nothing more than for you to throw your hands up and walk away, leaving your loved one to fend for themselves and be cannibalized by the hunger of the illness.

Over time, even with proper care and education, the illness rarely backs down and understands how to progress around many hurdles we may throw at it. If you watch closely, and I will tell you now that it is one of the most painful experiences you will ever encounter, you will notice that the illness slowly changes our loved ones into somebody we don’t know. As subtly as possible, there will be another episode in the year, another anxiety driven breakdown or another day in the bedroom shying away from the rest of the world…not too noticeable by the uninvolved, but it’s there and your loved one and you are now being challenged a little bit more.

Bipolar hates everything, except for drama, attention and inflicting pain to as many people it can access. Why?

• Bipolar hates rejection and it becomes self-sufficient in making itself stronger and fights that much harder
• Bipolar hates itself in such a way where it constantly works to kill itself and take its host with it
• Bipolar hates its hosts supporters and loves to hurt as many of us as it can in the process

So if we keep trying to help our loved ones deal with the hell that there is no cure for, and we know it will only get worse over time, why do we continue to fight a losing battle? If your bipolar loved one is still around and you are able to receive love from them, you’re still winning the war. I have witnessed the loss of a family member that was fighting bipolar disorder and although I never had the opportunity to really know or help them with the knowledge I have gained over the years, the pain still remains from seeing the changes that have rippled through her own immediate family due to her no longer being here. I have read countless stories about the losses the world endures from our loved ones being taken from us by bipolar disorder and from what I have seen, it is not due to a lack of adequate support and understanding from the loved ones, rather, the disorder becomes stronger than the individual it is feeding off of and the only way our loved ones are left to see as a solution is to take their own lives and remove themselves as perceived burdens to the rest of the world.

My tag-line on this site reads, “The Ultimate Challenge of Love and Patience”. When I started the site, this is the first thought that came into my head as to how and why I wanted to help others. Fighting this disease is a constant challenge, it is one of the most difficult challenges I have ever been confronted with. My way of fighting it is simply to throw as much love as I have to my wife and to offer as much patience as I can gather, not because I am angry or frustrated with her, but with who the illness is making her out to be. Supporters will take the brunt of the fight and be hit with some very dirty moves, but know that you’re taking those hits for you loved one as they can’t do it alone, and if they are left alone to do so, they might not make it to the end of the battle.

With a passion to reach out and to help others, Rich opens up a direct view into the trials and tribulations that come with managing a bipolar relationship and how to use real-world techniques to aid in stability and support.

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