Comments on: Rapid Cycling: The Land of Confusion

By: Rich Wallace

Rich Wallace — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 15:09:50 +0000

Thanks for commenting, Jessi. I'm very sorry about the your story, this is unfortunately, painful yet common as I've been there myself before I opened my own eyes to what was really going on. Feel free to send him the link to the site if it may be something of interest. Take care and thank you for the kind words.

By: Jessi

Jessi — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 15:43:59 +0000

I suffer from the same thing as your wife, except my husband denies it and refuses to believe what my psychiatrist, therapist, and even neurologist have told him. I'm on meds for it, but still waiting to see if they will work. Reading your article nearly made me cry … your wife is very lucky to have someone who is trying to understand and hasn't given up on her.

By: Mental Contortionist | The Bipolar Spouse

Mental Contortionist | The Bipolar Spouse — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 18:27:24 +0000

[...] only recently found TheBipolarSpouse.com, my wife manages her life with Bipolar Disorder II and Ultradian Cycling. I like to believe that I am a very compassionate individual and when I watch my wife go through [...]

By: Rich Wallace

Rich Wallace — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 17:30:11 +0000

Blog Post: Rapid Cycling: The Land of Confusion | The Bipolar Spouse http://bit.ly/74Lr4 #bipolar #mentalhealth

By: Rich Wallace

Rich Wallace — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 19:22:28 +0000

Thank you for sharing, Joan. I'm so sorry about the difficult challenges that have endured and continue to battle. Being on the receiving end of such cycles are indeed difficult, but if you can both realize that this is a battle you can BOTH fight together, it may open up some new doors and make it a little easier. When you are told everything is your fault, constantly remind yourself that it is the illness making such claims, not your husband…he is only the mask being used by the illness. Again, thank you for visiting and glad to have offered some positivity!

By: Rich Wallace

Rich Wallace — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 19:18:00 +0000

Thank you for stopping by BB! The positive side is that you can Carl can identify and pro-actively prepare for the cycles. Every bit helps!

By: Joan

Joan — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 18:56:54 +0000

My husband is bipolar with no health insurance and has been relying on our family doctor for medications. He has not had a job in almost 5 years. I also was laid off and am going to college online, started by own real estate business after getting my real estate license. My father, who I adored, died during these five years. We lost our home to foreclosure and I spent all of my IRA trying to save our home and keep up with living expenses while establishing my business. My oldest daughter has been in an abusive relationship (better now) and my youngest is 19, going to nursing school, and having a baby in February.
My husband cycles so often and I am exhausted in trying to figure out triggers and constantly convincing myself that it's not my fault, though I am often told just about everything is my fault. The quote "When he is good, he is very very good and when he is bad, he is horrid" is the best way I know to explain this life. I am at a loss and very very exhausted. So tired of not knowing who I am going to wake up with. Thank you for giving me a place to vent.

By: ButterBean

ButterBean — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 21:10:54 +0000

Thanks for this one yet again Rich… I can have days where I go back and forth so many times that I just want to be knocked out with an RX until it's over… and I am sure Carl, my hubby, feels the same way. LOL It is sooooooo difficult for both side of the spousal relationship with ultradian cycling. I happy, now I'm sad, not I hate you and the world, now I feel guilty and shameful and depressed, now I love everything so much I can't even express it, now I hate myself and have no self-worth, now I am putting on lipstick because I feel sexy, now I feel numb… how hard is that to deal with?? Geesh. But you know what? We deal and we deal quite well now-a-days thanks to education, awareness, and constant hard work with many moments of total exhaustion and feeling like giving up. Once you stop working on the relationship (and bipolar in this case) , the relationship stops working altogether. Work work work… rest rest rest. That is our life now, in cycles of course.

By: Rich Wallace

Rich Wallace — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 15:20:37 +0000

Hi Dante! Good to hear from others experiencing this and also how important it is to have effective and knowledgeable supporters. It's terrifying to know that there are many sufferers out there that either do not share enough information to gain the right support, or others are just not willing to offer that unconditional love and understanding to be there. Hang in there and good luck!

By: Marco Dante

Marco Dante — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 13:56:59 +0000

Four or more mood episodes in one year? How about one DAY? I can certainly relate. I did a Dr J/Dr. H switcheroo myself this weekend. Fortunately my spouse knows the drill and refused to be pushed away. That is, after staying away long enough to give me some space. That unconditional love is the one bright spot, the one constant in a roller-coaster life. Sounds like you two have an understanding about the disorder and how to cope with it. Good luck with it and thanks for sharing. Marco http://bipolarized.wordpress.com