Comments on: Shifting the Paradigm http://thebipolarspouse.com/2009/11/11/shifting-the-paradigm/ Fri, 30 Jul 2010 16:33:27 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: From the Outside Looking In | The Bipolar Spouse http://thebipolarspouse.com/2009/11/11/shifting-the-paradigm/comment-page-1/#comment-1051 From the Outside Looking In | The Bipolar Spouse Tue, 29 Jun 2010 16:04:47 +0000 http://thebipolarspouse.com/?p=648#comment-1051 [...] I’ve mentioned before, I’m just as guilty as many others and for years, I turned a blind eye to the pain my wife has endured.  Why?  Because I don’t [...] [...] I’ve mentioned before, I’m just as guilty as many others and for years, I turned a blind eye to the pain my wife has endured.  Why?  Because I don’t [...]

]]> By: Rich Wallace http://thebipolarspouse.com/2009/11/11/shifting-the-paradigm/comment-page-1/#comment-978 Rich Wallace Tue, 01 Jun 2010 17:34:41 +0000 http://thebipolarspouse.com/?p=648#comment-978 <span class="topsy_trackback_comment"><span class="topsy_twitter_username"><span class="topsy_trackback_content">Blog Post: Shifting the Paradigm | The Bipolar Spouse http://bit.ly/23KXwL #bipolar #mentalhealth</span></span> Blog Post: Shifting the Paradigm | The Bipolar Spouse http://bit.ly/23KXwL #bipolar #mentalhealth

]]> By: tammy http://thebipolarspouse.com/2009/11/11/shifting-the-paradigm/comment-page-1/#comment-160 tammy Fri, 13 Nov 2009 03:15:17 +0000 http://thebipolarspouse.com/?p=648#comment-160 I can't begin to tell you how much your marriage mirrored mine right at the end of it unraveling and crumbling before my very eyes. I am also in the running for the "queen of clean" which also happens to be a trigger for me. If things are dirty or out of order...WATCH OUT because the bipolar rage WILL hit. And nobody ever cleaned to MY expectations, so it was never good enough. My husband was all the time telling me I was over reacting. He was/is very much like you, very laid back and non confrontationall, many times leaving me to stew in my own emotions. I continue to email him, hoping one day he will have the same revelation you did. I also continue to send him links to your articles hoping he will see what was happening and get educated. BTW, some of your comments aren't showing up.... I can’t begin to tell you how much your marriage mirrored mine right at the end of it unraveling and crumbling before my very eyes. I am also in the running for the “queen of clean” which also happens to be a trigger for me. If things are dirty or out of order…WATCH OUT because the bipolar rage WILL hit. And nobody ever cleaned to MY expectations, so it was never good enough.

My husband was all the time telling me I was over reacting. He was/is very much like you, very laid back and non confrontationall, many times leaving me to stew in my own emotions.

I continue to email him, hoping one day he will have the same revelation you did. I also continue to send him links to your articles hoping he will see what was happening and get educated.

BTW, some of your comments aren’t showing up….

]]> By: Rich Wallace http://thebipolarspouse.com/2009/11/11/shifting-the-paradigm/comment-page-1/#comment-158 Rich Wallace Thu, 12 Nov 2009 16:24:51 +0000 http://thebipolarspouse.com/?p=648#comment-158 You're very welcome, Joan. Congratulations on the new job! I'm not exactly, "typical", as my wife tells me as I truly don't worry about much at all. I'm one to not think of what-ifs or dwell on things that will essentially put me in my own bad mood. Unfortunately, I cannot teach that, but I have always chose to not worry about things until they actually become a physical challenge. Worrying to me causes stress and anxiety that I simply don't wish to have in my life. My wife actually hates that I can do this, only because she wishes she could do the same thing. Thank you for the support, Joan and good luck! You're very welcome, Joan. Congratulations on the new job! I'm not exactly, "typical", as my wife tells me as I truly don't worry about much at all. I'm one to not think of what-ifs or dwell on things that will essentially put me in my own bad mood. Unfortunately, I cannot teach that, but I have always chose to not worry about things until they actually become a physical challenge. Worrying to me causes stress and anxiety that I simply don't wish to have in my life. My wife actually hates that I can do this, only because she wishes she could do the same thing. Thank you for the support, Joan and good luck!

]]> By: Rich Wallace http://thebipolarspouse.com/2009/11/11/shifting-the-paradigm/comment-page-1/#comment-157 Rich Wallace Thu, 12 Nov 2009 16:12:19 +0000 http://thebipolarspouse.com/?p=648#comment-157 VERY well said, Margaret! Thank you! VERY well said, Margaret! Thank you!

]]> By: Rich Wallace http://thebipolarspouse.com/2009/11/11/shifting-the-paradigm/comment-page-1/#comment-156 Rich Wallace Thu, 12 Nov 2009 16:11:51 +0000 http://thebipolarspouse.com/?p=648#comment-156 I'm nobody "special", but it does take a bit more inner-strength for those that do not understand the lifestyle to make the first move in such a change. Unfortunately, as with just about any change, people are afraid to make the necessary changes in their own lives. I am truly sorry that you have had to endure such a challenge, but know that there are strong people out there that can and will do their best to understand as much as they can. Thank you for the compliments and please hang in there. I'm nobody "special", but it does take a bit more inner-strength for those that do not understand the lifestyle to make the first move in such a change. Unfortunately, as with just about any change, people are afraid to make the necessary changes in their own lives. I am truly sorry that you have had to endure such a challenge, but know that there are strong people out there that can and will do their best to understand as much as they can. Thank you for the compliments and please hang in there.

]]> By: Sheri Weinberg http://thebipolarspouse.com/2009/11/11/shifting-the-paradigm/comment-page-1/#comment-155 Sheri Weinberg Thu, 12 Nov 2009 01:04:30 +0000 http://thebipolarspouse.com/?p=648#comment-155 This is an amazingly candid post. Thank you for sharing the reality of loving someone with bipolar disorder. This is an amazingly candid post. Thank you for sharing the reality of loving someone with bipolar disorder.

]]> By: carlos http://thebipolarspouse.com/2009/11/11/shifting-the-paradigm/comment-page-1/#comment-979 carlos Thu, 12 Nov 2009 00:10:41 +0000 http://thebipolarspouse.com/?p=648#comment-979 <span class="topsy_trackback_comment"><span class="topsy_twitter_username"><span class="topsy_trackback_content">Shifting the Paradigm - http://bit.ly/4yLk4R #bipolar. Great read</span></span> Shifting the Paradigm – http://bit.ly/4yLk4R #bipolar. Great read

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