How to Support Loved Ones

When managing a relationship of any kind with an individual with bipolar disorder, the disorder will eventually affect you whether you are expecting it or not.  The role you play in the life of a bipolar individual is extremely important when it comes time to support them during their cycle, regardless of what side of the pole they are living in during an episode.  First off, if you believe the individual does indeed suffer from bipolar disorder and they have not yet been diagnosed, find the courage to get them the help they need even if they fight you and deny the possibility they may have such a disorder.  If they have already been diagnosed, take extra attention in learning their own unique cycles and reactions.  In order to truly support a friend or loved one with bipolar disorder, please keep the following ways in mind when supporting or helping:

• Study bipolar disorder and it’s symptoms and effects to gain a healthy understanding of what the individual may be experiencing
• Incorporate empathic listening and watch out for flags or warnings if the individual is to be considered a threat to themselves
• Offer emotional support, understanding and encouragement that they are not alone and are cared for
• Practice extreme patience as not only is this difficult for you, but it is much more difficult for the bipolar individual
• Participate in therapeutic activities with them, go out for a walk, see a movie or other favorite activity with them
• Offer positive reinforcement that they are loved, cared for and with correct treatment, things can be better for them

The most important attribute you can offer one suffering from bipolar disorder, is a good ability to listen.  Most cases, the emotions, feelings and thoughts that are flying around in a bipolar individuals mind are thoughts and ideas that need to come out and be addressed.  Loneliness and lack of self worth can wreak havoc against a bipolar mind and it is during these challenges that your support is needed more than ever.  Watch them closely and listen for any indications that may signal suicidal thoughts or desires to cause harm toward themselves or others.  If this does become a concern, it is your responsibility as a supporter to get them the help they need as soon as possible.  Whether it be enough to call 911, or go with them to their next therapy session, your experiences in these scenarios may be exactly what needs to be shared with the caregivers to ensure your loved one is provided with the most accurate help they need.